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Do you know someone experiencing domestic violence?

It can be hard to tell if someone you know is experiencing abuse. You may have an instinct that something is not right, click here for information on warning signs.

Often, women living with abuse become isolated from their support network of family and friends.

They can also feel very ashamed of talking about what is happening to them, wrongly believing that in some way it is their fault.

It is helpful to remember that:

  • Abusers can be charming, well respected members of the community.
  • Domestic violence and abuse takes place across the entire Jewish community.
  • Abuse happens in affluent households and lower income ones; in religious homes and secular ones; with young couples and those in their senior years.
  • A woman who is confident in her work and social life can come to believe she is useless if her partner consistently tells her she is stupid, isolates her from friends and family and blames her for their abusive behaviour.

If your friend, neighbour or relative tells you she is experiencing domestic violence, do listen to her and offer support and information about JWA and how we might help her. If you feel you need advice about what to say to her and how to support her, do call our office on 020 8445 8060, our helpline on 0808 801 0500 or email

If she has had to leave a violent relationship, you can help by supporting her and keeping her company, and telling her JWA is there for her.

Staying safe

It can be very upsetting to think that someone is hurting a person you care about. Your first instinct may be to want to protect your friend or family member, but intervening could in fact be dangerous for both you and her. Of course, this does not mean you should ignore it; there are things you can do to help make her and any children safer.


Don’t forget:

  • Domestic violence is very common. One woman in four experiences domestic violence at some point in her life and an abused woman may live with domestic violence for years before she tells anyone or seeks help.
  • Domestic violence is very dangerous. Two women a week in the UK are killed by a current or former partner.
  • All people have the right to live without fear of violence and abuse.
  • The abuser is solely responsible for their abusive behaviour. The woman is not to blame; being abusive and violent is a choice.

Remember: you can call our helpline 0808 801 0500 for advice on how to support your friend or relative. For more information click here.