Judaism's emphasis on family life and family values has made it difficult for women to talk about what has happened to them and to ask for help. Women may remain silent through shame, embarrassment, a feeling of guilt or fear that they will not be believed. They feel alone, that no-one else has experienced such abuse and that it must be their fault.

To marry and have children is a religious duty. Family and children are vitally important in Judaism and the home is the centre of our religion. Many of our festivals and observances are centred on the home and family. This makes it all the harder for women to admit to the domestic violence they have suffered, which is so at variance with our religious code.

On average, women are abused 35 times before they confide in anyone. Jewish women often wait even longer before seeking help.

It is very difficult for a Jewish woman or child experiencing domestic violence to admit what is happening to someone within their community. But, for many, it is impossible to seek help from outside for fear of bringing not only shame to their community but also their religion into disrepute.

Being believed, accepted, supported and understood is vital. It brings strength and comfort and is the start of recovery.

Jewish Teaching on Domestic Violence