Jewish law expressly forbids personal violence and requires commitment to shalom bayit, a happy and peaceful family life. Jewish men who commit domestic violence, are destroying shalom bayit and breaking Jewish law.

"A person should honour his wife more than himself, and love her like himself"

"A man should not project excessive fear in his household" - Talmud Bavli (edited 8th century C.E) Gitten 6b

"Thus commanded the Sages, A man should honour his wife more than his own body and love her like his own body" - Maimonides' Mishne Torah (written 1177-1182), Sefer Nashim Hilkhot Ishut, 15:19, Shabtai Frankel edition, Jerusalem 1982

"When asked if a husband can strike his wife, Rav Chanania replied: 'He has no jurisdiction over her! Not to shame her and not to injure her'" - Teshuvot Hageonim quoting Rav Chanania Gaon re Maharshal, Bava Kama chapter 3 paragraph 21

"Because she is bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh..... it is forbidden to raise one's hand against her, God forbid!" - Sefer Habrit, section 2, article 13, chapter 15

"It is fitting for a man to love his wife like himself, and to honour her, and to have mercy on her, and to look after her that she is not harmed, as one looks after one's own limbs" - Baalei Hanefesh, Introduction

Regardless of how a wife behaves towards her husband, he is obliged to treat her with respect. "Even if she is a bad wife with no sense, who deliberately angers him and makes great expenses.... nevertheless he should bear the yoke with great patience, because domestic peace is very important, and one should honour one's wife in honour of the Shechina.... If someone does this in this world, he will find rest and God will give him blessing" - Peleh Yo'etz, rules 1

"If he (the husband) beats and harasses her.... and she flees, she is in the right because a person cannot live with a snake" - The Rashba, Meyuchascot, 102

"The cries of the daughters of our nation are heard from afar, concerning Jews who lift their hands to strike their wives. Who gave a man authority in this matter to strike his wife? Is he not commanded to not strike any member of the Jewish people?" - Rabeinu Peretz from Kurveil