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What does IDEVAW mean to me?

30 November 2015

You asked me what IDEVAW means to me.

I answer as follows…….

I Dream Every Victim Awakens Wrath in all humankind and

I Dare Everyone Violent to Acknowledge Wrongdoing and work to change.

Domestic and sexual violence are human rights violations, perpetrated in the main by men who hate women and this hatred is nourished by culture, tradition and legislation. Women ask for equality, nothing more and nothing less.

The language of domestic and sexual violence – possession, torture, fear, murder, ownership, rape – must be replaced by the language of equality – cooperation, assistance, parity, trust, openness, acceptance.

In the words of Madara & White:

And don’t tell me what to do
Don’t tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don’t put me on display ’cause

You don’t own me
Don’t try to change me in any way
You don’t own me
Don’t tie me down ’cause I’d never stay

I don’t tell you what to say
I don’t tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That’s all I ask of you

(You Don’t Own Me)

This is what IDEVAW means to me.

Monica Tuohy

Monica Tuohy is a freelance consultant & trainer, and EVAW professional. She has a long association with JWA, including a stint as maternity cover Executive Director at JWA.